I need some motivation to get back running…
“I need some motivation to get back out there and run. My husband of 33 years passed away unexpectedly on November 30th. I have not been able to get out the door and run since this unbearable loss. He was my best friend and the love of my life. I am heartbroken. My mind tells me to get out and run, it will help, but my heart is broken and I just can’t seem to do it.” – Teri
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Running is therapeutic… even if you run a half mile and cry the rest- it did something! Physically or emotionally… running is medicine. Hang in there!
Run for him! Run to keep yourself mentally healthy! Run & make that your special time to remember all the good times!
Running is excellent therapy, hope manage to run again soon …
Running is part of self care. Worries and troubles are given a rest during runs. Imagine your husband seeing that you are taking care of yourself and enjoying life on your own. Go for that run and start your own journey.
I have found that running offers me the clarity I need to help me work through some of life’s most difficult questions. It’s probably what you need the most. Sincere condolences on your loss. The grief you’re feeling must be unbearable. Lace up and head out that front door.
Try to lace up & walk out your door tomorrow. Look up at the sky and let him know that you are running to be with him. And then take a step knowing it would make him happy to see you taking care of yourself.
So sorry for your loss. I remember feeling the same way after my father died in April and my nephew in July. I was afraid to go for a run because I didn’t want to have all that time alone to let my mind have nothing to do or think about beside those losses. Both were very unexpected and tragic and I was hurting but knew a run would do my body good. I’m not the type of person that can get lost and out of my head on a run…it gives me time to think and work over things in my head and that terrified me. I don’t know you or him…but I think that he loved you well…otherwise you may not be so heartbroken…and as he loved you he would want to to keep doing something that is good for your mind and body. Just get dressed and get out there. Walk when it becomes to much and run your ass off when the anger and fear hit you. Be well. Sending you hugs and light and love.
One step at a time. Maybe go out for a long walk. Walking / Running soothes my soul and clears my head. But do it in your time. Sorry for your loss.
Go easy on yourself Teri. Grief is a beast. You’ll get out there in your own time and on your own terms. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I had the same thing happen to me only we had been married 24 years. When you can’t do anything else- just put one foot in front of the other. And no excuses. I know it hurts, I know the pain. But running helped me process so much of that pain and also helped me put some things in perspective. Don’t let the loss take over. One foot in front of the other. You got this.
Good lord…give yourself time too. In your own time!! EVERYTHING is so fresh still. Sit down eat the damn cake! Cry, yell, scream…your shoes will be ready when u r. Also remember when you are ready you don’t have to run a 5k ….even 5 minutes. And bring the cake with u. I am so incredibly sorry to hear about your husband.
Getting back at it is the best thing you can do! Make a new playlist of your favorite songs and get out there. God bless you. Be and stay strong! You are not alone.
Running is therapy. I unexpectedly lost my 22-month-old in August. It took a few weeks before I got back out. I started with telling myself I’ll just walk a short distance. Once I got started, I felt better and keep going, and then jogging again. Just get out and plan to go around the block. No pressure. No running if you don’t feel like it. Use the time to meditate and pray. So sorry for your loss. Sending hugs!!
Ask him for help. Run or walk one step for each of the years you were blessed to share. look for him out on your route (e.g. his favorite color, a spot you both liked, something that made him smile).. talk to him, cry to him, miss him and know that our hearts go out to you and that with time it will get better.
So sorry to hear about your devastating loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time; I, like others, believe you just have to let the desire, the motivation, come to you on its own terms. Going through my own personal grieving process, the advice I’ve been given to not force anything this year has been the best advice. We all grieve our own ways, and when you’re ready you will know it. Wishing you all the best during this difficult time.
I lost my husband to cancer in may and it took me several weeks to get out there and it was very cathartic when i finally felt like being out there. I have run 5 or 6 races since then and it is still tough and tearful. What helped me is to honor how ever i felt that that day, walk or run, music or not, it is all ok. I pray for your peace in this very painful time.
How about a short walk? Get some fresh air, and you’ll remember how it feels. Hugs to you. 
Get out there and run . It’s good for you and help release endorphins to make you happy 
😊 Do it with out thinking the first 15 mins is the hardest but once you do you won’t regret it 
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I’m sorry for your loss. Go easy on yourself, you will know when the time is right. If you think you are ready, start with a walk, the sunshine will raise your spirits and help you go through this process. Blessings ❤️
This is difficult. Yes, Running will help emotionally and physically. But mentally, you may need more time. Running is about you and healing you. Grief, is terrible and so hard to go through. Some can get in it and lose them self and others, just need time. When you’re ready lace up those shoes and go for it. Your heart is broken and needs time to heal. The road will always be there waiting for your footsteps, for your pace…be kind to yourself right now.
When I was experiencing that kind of loss, having a running friend or group of friends who literally showed up at my front door to run with me made all the difference. Good luck and my prayers are with you.
Run, but don’t push yourself. I lost someone recently and tried to out run the grief and failed. In the end, time will help heal your soul. Big hug to ya.
I am so sorry for your loss. Everyone needs to grieve at their own pace but i understand wanting to run but not being able for personal reasons. All I can say is we now have the same first step to take and it’s hard to do. Lace up and give it a go, yell scream and ugly cry the whole time or enjoy the escape for a brief time. What ever emotions come up are ok and if you decide to stop after only a few minutes that’s ok. Be gentle with yourself but don’t give up. It’s hard to do but give it a go. Once you start you will know what’s right.
After my brother passed away, i found that my run/walk time turned in to “our time”. All the memories, all the things i wanted to tell him, all the tears that needed to be released, they happen on my runs or walks. It has helped me to not miss the physical him as much.
First sorry for you loss, take your time when the time comes you will know. And when you do go back running know he will be watching over you.
It will come, give it time. One day you will just lace up your shoes and step out that door, when your ready you will know.
So sorry to hear of your great loss. Run when you’re ready to. Don’t beat yourself up about it if you can’t do it at this time. When you are ready, it will be there for you. Take care ❤️
Start with getting out the door. While walking talk to him. Helps to do it out loud. You’ll feel his presence with you. It’s very cathartic.
My mom died several months ago and I went through the same thing, so I decided to use my runs as “dates” with her. When I run now, it’s just me and my mom, with memories flooding through that fuel me.
Take time to morn. It’s ok. You’ll know when it’s time to go back out and run. Start with 10 minutes then just add to it. Getting out is the hardest part.
Prayers will help. Listen quietly for the answers, sometimes they’re a whisper or the wind. Think of your husband what would he want you to do? I’m sure it would be to on with your life and run like the wind. Time will help some , but running can really help. You’ll see and hear things you may have missed before.
I completely understand. I jog because it clears my head. And in memory of my daughter.
Hugs and prayers. Give yourself time to heal. You’ll know when it’s time to start running again.
After my dad died some mornings I ran some I walked, but I always talked to him. It really helped. Good luck!!